Learning how to trust your intuition starts when you stop treating the signals in your body as proof that something is wrong with you. If you have built a life that looks perfect on paper and still feel the quiet ick, you are not broken. You are being called to something more. Maybe you are the most capable woman in every room, the one everyone comes to for answers, and you keep saying “fine” when someone asks how you are.

On this episode of She Has the Audacity, host and coach Chana Ross sits down with Lacey Newman, a founder, coach, and keynote speaker. Lacey built a real estate team to nearly $1 billion in sales volume while raising two children on her own, then walked away at 45 to rebuild her life and business. She explains capability addiction, the habit that turns the most capable woman in the room into the bottleneck in her own life. She shares how she uses ChatGPT to untangle her thoughts, the zone of genius exercise that revealed strengths she had dismissed as normal, and why rising higher is about cutting the cords that hold you back, not adding more fuel. Consider this your permission to stop settling for fine.

You’ll learn:

How to trust your intuition when you have spent years overriding it, and why the ick is your body’s signal to hit the brakes, not a flaw you need to fix.
What capability addiction is, and how being the most capable woman in the room can quietly make you the bottleneck in your own life and business.
How to trust your intuition by using ChatGPT, or a trusted friend, to untangle your jumbled thoughts and reflect them back so you hear what you actually mean.
The zone of genius exercise, where you email the 20 people closest to you, and why it reveals the strengths you take for granted because they feel normal.
How to know what to say no to, using the Michelangelo story from Essentialism, so every no becomes a simple question of whether it supports your vision.
Why rising higher means letting go of the relationships, tasks, and expectations you have outgrown, instead of asking what else you need to do to succeed.
Why the people closest to you are often counting on you to stay the same, and why your best advice comes from women who have already walked your path.

We talk about:

00:00 Meet Lacey Newman and the Pivot Year connection

02:49 Walking away from a 20-year real estate career at 45

04:19 The one line a day journal and the ick

06:22 Why do high achievers think something is wrong with them

10:02 How each generation defined success differently

13:20 Capability addiction and becoming the bottleneck

16:25 What an Oura Ring taught Lacey about self-trust

20:56 How to trust your intuition using ChatGPT

23:39 The zone of genius exercise with 20 people

26:34 Rising higher by cutting the cords that hold you

28:24 How do you know what to say no to

33:00 Advice for her younger self and self-forgiveness

Ready to build what’s next with more clarity and less burnout? Learn about working with Lacey Newman at https://laceynewman.com

Connect with Lacey

Website: https://laceynewman.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heylaceynewman/

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